So my "date" the other night, if you read the last blog asked why she couldn't find a nice guy like me. Well aside from that this was a date and she forgot she was having a date with a nice guy therefore I was found, but the glaring fact is that she's not alone. I'm always meeting girls who's always asking...."Why can't I find a nice guy?" Well the answer is pretty simple.....nice guys are under the radar. They're not as cool, not trendy hell not even great looking. This is a superficial world we live in, dominated by celebrity and looks and wealth and lets face it a nice guy is not any of those. Oh he's kinda cute, he may not scare small children but a nice guy is not Brad Pitt nor do they have a six pack abs. See nice guys are always either A) taken or B) overlooked. For instance, women, look at your best male friends (the ones who aren't secretly in love with you) the hopelessly single ones anyways and he's kinda round in tha belly, slightly goofy, always joking, always there for ya and well? No attraction, no chemistry, no nothing just warm fuzzy friendly feelings. The next time you go to a cafe, look at the guy sitting there, drinking his mocha and reading or writing. What about the slightly shy guy at school or at work. The one who's always saying hi and asking if you're ok. Odds on he's a nice guy. Odds on he's single, odds on if you're in NYC its probably me. Ah well.Now humans always define themselves by adversity, I mean a relationship a good one (according to some really demented girls I've met) is always full of drama. Well aside from my one mistake, I broke up with my ex's in nice ways we just woke up one morning and realized, "Eh, its not right is it?" I'm still friends with some. See I don't like drama; I rather save arguments for worthwhile ones. In other words as I get older I pick and choose my fights cause sometimes its not worth the drama, though making up is always fun.....Um, anyways, dating a nice guy is well......boring. And I can see why some women don't want boring, but I don't understand women when they say we can't find a nice guy. So let’s keep it real for a sec ok? Lets face it you, me, we all go for superficial looks and stuff. The looks, the body, etc etc etc.And in the end all we get is a see ya. See a superficial relationship will end up in a superficial break up. In other words said hottie will find another hottie and get hot without you.Now I know so women who are reading this and who has someone will defend their man rigorously. But honestly, a nice guy wouldn't break a date to hang with the boys, a nice guy wouldn't get drunk and call you fat, ugly or whatever. And moreover, a nice guy wouldn't treat you like you were second class. Its bad enough the world makes nice guys look like wussies, the last thing a nice guy would do is make someone else feel like that.Obviously dating is a trial and error process, filled with lots of first dates and last dates, full of blind dates and group dates and web dates and such. But dates nonetheless, with real people or at least we think so. And they'll be bad dates and some really good ones, dates that belong in a book of nightmares and some in a book of dreams. They'll be lots of butterflies and nerves, those are good, it lets you know you're still alive. Some of the date’s will be with nice looking guys, moneyed guys, nice guys and bad guys who act nice but after three months bad guy rears its ugly head guy. The I'm so into myself guy, the overly- I cried at Bambi- sensitive guy (though on a side note, Bambi's mom getting shot is pretty F'd up). The i wear too much cologne guy, the open shirt dancing guy, the college frat and future beer belly guy. The guy who can't hold is liquor, the guy who has really bad breath, the guy who fought with his iron and lost guy (dry cleaning dude, think about it). The oh too hip guy (dude we're all getting old you will not always be hip trust me). Yes you women will be dating these guys and guys fear not you will be dating the too much perfume girl, the Prada bag girl, the I'm cute in a geeky way girl, the God life sucks gal (life can't suck that much if you can get out and go on a date, but that’s just me). One of my personal favorite the party girl (seriously partying is cool and do it when your young but seriously anything more than twice a week?) another favorite the I'm too beautiful and sexy to be out with you girl (two words, wrinkle cream. like the hipster guy we are all gonna start sagging soon) and the nice girl. So what's a guy or gal to do while we're all waiting for the "one" to show up? Keep dating keep looking keeping the faith I guess. But for me...I guess I'm just waiting for a gal who is willing to look past the race, the height (DNA really screwed me here) and of course the fact that I'm a nice guy with no baggage no drama and no clue. But that’s why I'm still dating cause if you think dating in your hometown is rough? Try dating in New York and you have to compete with yuppies with expense accounts and drop top BMW's. But we keep going cause a nice guy knows that we may finish last but we finish cause life and love is like a marathon and not a sprint.